You watch reality TV. Now read the reality book.
Sex is a common bond we all share. Whether we are thinking about having it, have had it or are just wondering what it's like, it is a driving force in our lives.
This book was created for a number of reasons. The first, and most important, is to provide a source for virgins to turn to when they are curious about what sex is REALLY like. Not just the physical aspect of sex but the emotional aspect as well. What goes through one's mind? What is it like for a female? For a male? What do you feel? Does it hurt? Do you bleed and if so, how much? Will you have an orgasm? What is an orgasm?
The Virgin Diaries provides those insights.
It is important to note that this book was done informally. Neither one of us is a psychologist, psychiatrist or scientist and we don't pretend to be. We offer no commentary on the stories. Rather, we let the reader judge the merits of each story.
In the book, you'll find accounts from people of all ages recalling what it was like for them. Some were thirty-two years old when they lost their virginity, some were twelve. Some planned it, some were taken by surprise.
In searching the Internet on first time sex, there are a number of sites that deal with this issue but we have found no book or site that chronicles both the emotional and physical aspects of the first time, specifically one that includes both sexes and includes the gay perspective. The Virgin Diaries includes six gay stories: three male and three female.
The Virgin Diaries is also a great tool for parents who want to educate their children but don't know what to say. Parents can offer advice but children will often just see advice as a rule. Think of it this way: You can tell a young child not to touch the fire but how do they learn? They always touch the flame and then find out it's hot and they feel the burn. They learn through experience.
Though The Virgin Diaries is not the same as having sex, it provides a thorough outline from many perspectives on what it is really like, giving detailed information to make an informed decision when the time comes. This is usually not the kind of information you get from parents, religious figures or even friends.
When we asked people to be interviewed, most said their stories were boring. Our reply was "It won't be boring when you answer all the questions." And we were right! Everyone's story is interesting.
All stories are anonymous. Most of the interviewee's answered the questions in the privacy of their own homes on their computers, allowing complete and total honesty they might not had given otherwise.
Different people will connect to different stories. Some stories will intrigue you, some will make you laugh, others may make you uncomfortable and even make you say "eww." There is some profanity and discussion of sexual acts but it is not gratuitous. It's real life.
As we read the stories, we found some interesting similarities as well as differences. For instance, when asked "How did you feel?", males always said how they felt physically while females described their emotional state. Most males feared pregnancy but the younger males also feared STD's.
Last, whether or not you're a virgin, it's interesting to read very private, detailed personal accounts of how people felt as they were having sex for the first time. It is literally like reading a journal.
See the questionnaire participants filled out on the Guidelines and Questions page.
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